There are all from the same book...
1 -- " There is no hazy line," says Lindsay, a fifteen year old cutter. "If I'm suicidal, I want to die. I have lost all hope. When I'm self injuring, I want to relieve emotional pain and keep on living..."
2 -- "When words fail us, tears will spontaneously fall.... Tears communicate powerfully, forcefully, honestly what you feel inside."
3 -- "Everyone wants me to feel the feelings," Lindsey says. "They say I have all these options, I can call people, I can talk to people. I know I have options, but they are not even on the same level as cutting. If they were, I wouldn't have to go to such extremes. "
4 -- "I've been torn open, intruded upon, broken into in a very literal way," says Michael Wagner. Through this "Body Language" of blood and scars, they can communicate much more directly and forcefully than they can speak with words.
5 -- Abused children are taught at a very young age that they exist only to give pleasure to others. They are not recognized as beings in their own right, but simply as a tool of some other more powerful person's needs. So they shut down their own emotions, needs, and desires. They bury their feelings so deeply that to even imagine letting them out feels completely overwhelming, as if they would drown in their tears or erupt in anger so savage they would kill. ..... If you expect nothing, you cannot be disappointed. And if you don’t want or need anything, you can avoid abusive reactions to your needs.
6 -- The study of self-injury makes clear that the mind and body are inextricably linked; each feeding from the other's nourishment or starving from the other's neglect. The body is indeed the temple of the soul. Cutters are living proof that when the body is ravaged, the soul cries out. And when the soul is trampled upon, the body bleeds.
7 -- Vanself injury quotes pain der Kolk estimates that half of all traumatized adults and even a greater percentage of children are unable to fully remember what happened to them. Instead, they express what they cannot express verbally through behaviors that reenact the trauma, like cutting, or through somatization, physical ailments that appear to have no organic cause.
8 -- "I wasn’t worth their concern, and besides, there wasn’t anything wrong with me. I wished there was something wrong with me because I didn’t want what I was feeling to be normal. But I couldn’t explain it anyway. "
9 -- “In the past, my system went on overload, I shut down, and I cut. You don’t feel like you're hurting yourself when you're cutting. You feel like this is the only way to take care of yourself."
10 -- "I don’t think that I've mutilated my body any more than wearing lip stick is a mutilation of my face or shoes are a mutilation of my feet"
11 -- "Mental health professionals haven’t done a great job of listening to the body, " says psychologist 马克 Schwartz. "What they try to do is medicate the symptom and realize there's a darn good reason that the person feels and acts that way. The majority of psychiatrist would still label these patients psychotic and put them in restraints.
12 -- But it is perfectly reasonable for those who have been abused and neglected by the people they loved and trusted to have difficulty trusting a therapist, to doubt the depth of his or her care and concern, to expect to be abused and rejected if they reveal the horror of who they believe themselves to be.
13 -- "Eventually you hope to eradicate the need for the symptom at all," says Schwartz. "But in the meantime, you ask yourself 'What can you do in the moment that would be less destructive? If you need to be held, can you ask to be held? If you need to see blood, can you use a magic marker insteself injury quotes painad of a blade? If you need to feel alive can you go out and run or sit in the sun or turn up your stereo headphones?..."
14 -- And many therapists will refuse to see a patient if they continue to cut. Other experts believe that asking a patient to give up such a crucial coping mechanism too soon could be dangerous, even deadly.
15 -- "...If I felt I was too high or too happy, it brought me down. If I was too far down, it seemed to bring me up. If I felt unreal, or disconnected, it grounded me. All the bad feelings that I didn’t understand came out in the blood, in these wonderful, warm sensations. It just did everything you could possibly imagine, like a magic pill."
16 -- "I know that a life is possible where every sharp object you pass does not whisper seductively to you, where you want to get out of bed in the morning, where you can stop wearing long sleeves all summer and lying to people you love." she says.
17 -- "People probably think I'm not saying anything because I don't want to be here or I'm
I agree with 90% of them. I know I'm mutilating my body by burning myself, and I regret it. I love the feeling, but I hate what it's doing to me. I break down and do it though. I'm trying to stop because I realize it's wroing to love this habit.
*edit* - Yes, I do think they're all understandable. It's just that some don't apply to me. :)
I think most of them are correct for most people like me. I am 20 years old and i was 13 when I started abusing myself. Imagine thrusting your arm in freezing water its jolting and shocking at first but then your arm becomes numb. Its like that. the control and the chance to not feel is worth it.
whew, too many.
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